The rule of toxic family system according to 12 step models is as follows: Don’t talk. Don’t trust. Don’t feel. When we grow up in families, were silence is reinforced, honored, and seen as a virtue, we can have a hard time finding our voices later on in life. This can cost us our inner peace, as well as our healing. Remembering that keeping the peace does not always mean that we are honoring ourselves, honoring our healing, or moving forward, we can start to notice when we need to raise our voi